Sibling success coping with two children

Cookies on our site

We use cookies to provide you with the best experience on our site. If you continue shopping with us we'll assume that you're happy to receive cookies. Find out more about cookies x

WebMD Link

  Can't find country?

Please note that changing your country whilst shopping will remove all items from your basket.

 


Information & Advice

Written on06/07/2010


Sibling success: coping with two children

Top tips for adjusting to two children

Sibling success: coping with two children

Top tips for adjusting to two children

So you think you've got the hang of parenting and you're ready for a new challenge? Bring on baby number two!

It takes time to adjust to being a larger family and looking after two children will feel very different to only one. But just remember what you have up your sleeve – experience! Everything you learnt from your first child will come in handy and help you with your second.

Mum-of-two Louise says

Mum of two holding baby

"My eldest child was very jealous when our new baby came along and it created a lot of tension. However I found the best solution was to involve my eldest child in as many things as possible with the new baby. It took time but now they're really close."

Top tips for sibling success

  • Older children may find it difficult to get used to a new baby in the house. If they feel jealous they may start attention seeking so it's important to find one-to-one time with them so they don't feel left out
  • Try to keep to your established routine. It might be difficult to go to regular playgroups and read stories in the first few weeks, but by attempting to stick to your normal schedule, you'll reassure your older child
  • It won't be easy but try to understand that your older child might not fall in love with the new baby straight away. It's a bonus if they do, but don't expect them to feel the same way as you about the new arrival
  • Encourage your older child to get involved with the new arrival. They can show the baby toys and photos and talk about when they were a baby
  • An older child might feel left out when you're feeding the new baby. Make sure they have something to do or find something to talk to them about
  • Don't worry if your older child starts acting like a baby all over again. You may find that they ask for a bottle, wet the bed or want carrying. It's completely normal so try not to feel too anxious and go along with some of their requests – if reasonable of course!
  • It might help to spend time on your own with your older child – it's inevitable they'll feel a little left out. If you can, ask for help from a partner, friend or grandparent so you can get the quality time you need with both children
  • Try to turn looking after the baby into something fun that your older child can get involved in

We hope these tips have given you some inspiration for making family life a little easier when your second little bundle of joy comes along.


Read more like this:
Memorable milestones: Your baby's first year
Keeping fit with a new baby
Safe and happy travel with kids
Happy families: When two becomes three

/Boots/VisualDesign/Pages/RichContent/UK_C_Cont_09_Standard /Boots/Schema/RichContent/ContentItem/UK_C_Content_09_Standard

Sibling success: coping with two children

Top tips for adjusting to two children

So you think you've got the hang of parenting and you're ready for a new challenge? Bring on baby number two!

It takes time to adjust to being a larger family and looking after two children will feel very different to only one. But just remember what you have up your sleeve ? experience! Everything you learnt from your first child will come in handy and help you with your second.

  • Older children may find it difficult to get used to a new baby in the house. If they feel jealous they may start attention seeking so it's important to find one-to-one time with them so they don't feel left out
  • Try to keep to your established routine. It might be difficult to go to regular playgroups and read stories in the first few weeks, but by attempting to stick to your normal schedule, you'll reassure your older child
  • It won't be easy but try to understand that your older child might not fall in love with the new baby straight away. It's a bonus if they do, but don't expect them to feel the same way as you about the new arrival
  • Encourage your older child to get involved with the new arrival. They can show the baby toys and photos and talk about when they were a baby
  • An older child might feel left out when you're feeding the new baby. Make sure they have something to do or find something to talk to them about
  • Don't worry if your older child starts acting like a baby all over again. You may find that they ask for a bottle, wet the bed or want carrying. It's completely normal so try not to feel too anxious and go along with some of their requests ? if reasonable of course!
  • It might help to spend time on your own with your older child ? it's inevitable they'll feel a little left out. If you can, ask for help from a partner, friend or grandparent so you can get the quality time you need with both children
  • Try to turn looking after the baby into something fun that your older child can get involved in

We hope these tips have given you some inspiration for making family life a little easier when your second little bundle of joy comes along.

Read more like this:

Memorable milestones: Your baby's first year
Keeping fit with a new baby
Safe and happy travel with kids
Happy families: When two becomes three

  • Our partner sites

  • Boots WebMD Macmillan